The multitude of symptoms and also the fact that you are likely to go through perimenopause for a long, long time before the actual menopause. No-one discusses this with you when you are younger! It's been a bit of a shock to me. I've used my own detective skills to work out what could be going on.

Age when symptoms started: 42

- Information around what age you should be more aware of signs - What the signs are to look for - Who to speak to if you are worried about it. - How to be more pro-active about it so that you can manage it when it happens - Having information around the overall types of experiences- e.g.; case study of women that highlights their experiences and how they've managed it.

Age when symptoms started: 40

That all my symptoms were normal and not unusual and that it would go on through my entire 40s and into my 50s rather than just something that would happen for a year or so when my periods stopped. I had no idea beforehand about peri menopause.

Age when symptoms started: 38

To realise that the first panic attack is just hormonal anxiety and not to be afraid, and to use the welcoming technique, as what you resist persists. So welcome more of the anxiety sensations and they will just melt away, rather than fight them. Stay away from progesterone pill.

Age when symptoms started: 35

Research beforehand and talk to others about their experiences.

Symptoms:

Flushed face

Age when symptoms started: 45

Nothing.

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Other

Age when symptoms started: 57

Don’t worry about the small stuff or how you look or what people think about you.. and definitely try not to be a people pleaser.. and most importantly.. take care of yourself... your health is your wealth! Oh, and try to be happy and enjoy the simple things in life .. that’s all we need really.. 🥰

Age when symptoms started: 51

I would say there is no rule book about what happens when, how it might affect you, how you 'should' react or how others might react. All you can do is prioritise yourself and your needs - not in a selfish way or a way that is detrimental to others, but in order to protect yourself and let yourself have the support and treatment you need. It may be a totally natural process that many women go through but all humans are individual and unique, so what it means will be different for everyone.

Age when symptoms started: 36

To make the connection between all the different symptoms and realise they might have a hormonal basis and be aware that these can start in your 40s (the perimenopause). Also I'd ask my GP for trial of HRT to see if it eased my symptoms and not just put up with it. But I'd stress the symptoms don't last forever and you will feel better eventually.

Age when symptoms started: 48

I would say that menopause is real. All the mystery pains do happen. Pay attention to the body, try to tell when some of the normality has been switched off. Get used to new way of living. Seek help. Look online for new information and solutions to look after the body. It will pass. Going in to your 50s will be rough mentally but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Talk to people about it, get a moral support. Because you will need it. The physical strength will diminish. It is normal and your body healing takes longer. Only eat and drink what agrees with body. You will realise these foods and drinks are fewer than you normally had in your lifetime.

Age when symptoms started: 45

To get checked out - don't just put up with / ignore symptoms as you think they'll go away. If they're affecting your life get it sorted. And don't think you're too young to be affected by menopause: signs can start earlier and you don't have to be in your 50s. I wish I'd got treatment sooner. Also if you're not happy with GP advice when you seek help, get a second opinion. I was lucky but so many others I've heard about seem to have had problems trying to access the right help for menopause.

Age when symptoms started: 45

Ditch the diet! Exercise need not be boring, don't worry about how you look in your swimming costume as you certainly won't look any better by sitting on the couch. Work life balance. Take time to notice yourself and what your body needs. As the poem says 'Buy a purple hat and dance in the rain' Don't forget what fun is and don't do what you don't like just because you feel you should. Don't worry about your 50's, it is OK!

Age when symptoms started: 53

I would say to my younger self, be more understanding of women of a certain age and sorry to my co worker who was having a hot flush and had got the fan on high, I thought she was being over dramatic. Knowing what I know now words can’t express the strain and pain of the many symptoms of the menopause!

Age when symptoms started: 48

Take care of yourself better, eat healthy, exercise and don’t take on more work than you can physically do because you will pay the price for the neglect of yourself in later years.

Age when symptoms started: 40

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Symptoms:

Other

Age when symptoms started: 42

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Symptoms:

Other

Age when symptoms started: 47

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Symptoms:

Low period

Age when symptoms started: 46